How Hidden Negative Expectations Can Sabotage Your Success
Written by Kiwi Champ and is filed under the Category: "Negative Mindsets"
Could you be sabotaging your success with secret negative expectations that may still be hidden in your subconscious mind?
I don’t have to tell you that life can have its ups and downs.
When everything is running smoothly, it is easy to maintain a positive attitude and keep your thoughts focused. Right?
It is also so much easier to keep up the discipline of your daily program of self development, right eating and exercise when everything around you is going well.
Setbacks do happen
But as you well know, no matter how well we plan our goals and strategies setbacks do happen. These are the times when we find out just how positive our mindset is and how determined to win we really are.
Setbacks reveal what you and I are REALLY made of
When an unexpected failure or setback crosses your path you may suddenly find yourself saying (or thinking) things like, “why did this have to happen now” or even “why do these things keep happening?”.
Wait a minute! What happened? Where did that come from? What happened to my positive mindset (you might be thinking)?
Worse still, the impact of the situation may be so strong that you totally lose your cool and the positive mindset you have been working so hard to create seems to have gone out the window.
Does this mean you have lost your way on the road to success? Of course not.
But it DOES mean that you need to take notice of what is happening, and deal with the root so that it will not be able to sabotage your success.
So where do reactions like this come from?
There are still some archives in your subconscious mind that need to be cleaned out.
No, they are not memories. They are decisions you made in the past when you faced a severe discouragement or were disillusioned over something that happened.
Your mind’s filing cabinet needs a clean out.
These decisions were stored in your subconscious mind under the heading: Negative Expectations. They are there waiting to “ambush you” when things get tough.
Every day you and I make multiple decisions. Some are conscious, and other times we may be so busy reacting to a situation, we don’t even realize we made a decision. But nevertheless these conclusions are stored away in our subconscious mind.
You may have thought or said something like this:
1. Well, that does not work!
(What you really mean is that it has not worked for you …. yet. Perhaps you gave up too early).
2. It seems like success is just not for me!
(What you really mean is that you have not achieved your goal …. yet. So why are you giving up so quickly?)
These declarations you spoke or thought were stored away in your mind as facts, and they became filters for future experiences.
These filters are the hidden negative expectations that can jump you at any given moment when the pressure is on. They are the motivating energy behind those negative words that come flying out of your mouth when something discouraging happens.
If you allow these expectations to stay in your mind, you are in danger of having your success sabotaged.
One thing you can do TODAY that will help you to start dismissing every negative expectation from your mind and free you to push and reach your dreams of success in life.
Look for the root! – Find Them Out!
Identify and face the negative decisions that caused the expectation. Discover the root! Find it out! How?
1. Recognize that the negative words that “jumped you” when you were ambushed by a setback of some kind actually came from YOUR subconscious mind.
The first step to turning around ANY negative habit, is to identify its existence and face it.
When you face a weakness or anything negative in your life, it loses its power over you. Why? Because the negative works in the dark. The positive works in the light!
2. Take note of the actual words you spoke. They will help you remember the moment you made a decision which empowered these words.
3. Now you can start making a conscious effort to reprogram that area of your mind.
So there are three main things you can do to eliminate these negative expectations from your life.
1. Find them out. (We looked at today)
2. Drive them out. What you can do to completely expel these attitudes from your life.
3. Keep them out. How you can keep these thought patterns from coming back.
Look for the next in this series on Tuesday, 19th Jan.
and don’t forget:
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